I found it frustrating — but really, I was feeling frustration on HER behalf. I think your advice is contradictory. So which is it? Tanya My first inclination was to defend myself. But if Tanya is finding this grey area to be a bit too grey, then I have to acknowledge that perhaps I can do a better job of explaining it. Janie is a client who signed up for Love U. I like Janie a lot. Good sense of humor. Understands men and lets them be themselves. Like Tanya — and my wife — she was trying to be the cool girl, but she took it too far.